I hate how we compare ourselves

"There is also the seeping of self-doubt into everyday consciousness, a subtle feeling of inadequacy that smothers one's activities with an uneasy sense of impending emptiness...For as we incorporate others into ourselves, so does the range of what we feel a 'good,' 'proper,' or 'exemplary' person should be....Each moment is enveloped in the guilt born of all that was possible but now foreclosed." Kenneth J. Gergen in The Saturated Self.

I feel this so much. The constant comparison with people around me. The constant feeling I"m behind in life, that I"m not where I should be or who I should be. The result of the new possibilities for interaction modernity has brought about....?