Criticism

I am most critical of those I love the most. I must not assume that I know best for them or that my way should be their way. If I really love them, should I love everything about them? It eats away at me...negativity fills me. Isn't it awful? I need to let go somehow. To look for the good, which comes so easily when it's not a close family member or friend. Maybe I coul turn more of that criticism inward and use it to work on myself rather than trying to change others....